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Losing a loved one is never easy and arranging a funeral can be tough, especially when your world has just been turned upside down. Whether you’ve organised a funeral before or it’s your first time, feeling overwhelmed or underprepared is completely understandable.

Funeral arrangements will depend on several factors, including your loved one’s religion and their final wishes. Knowing what you want for their service and what to expect when making funeral arrangements can make the process a little easier.

So, what questions will a funeral director ask you? Read on for our essential guide on what to expect at your first appointment below.

What to expect when visiting a funeral director

Firstly, it is important to understand that funeral directors are highly empathetic and understanding of your situation. If you don’t feel ready to go to the funeral home, it is perfectly acceptable to request that the funeral director come to you instead.

Nor do you have to visit the funeral director straight away. Once the death has been registered, you will be given a green form which you must take with you to the funeral home (or have with you at the home visit). The time frame in which you decide to do this is up to you.

Funeral directors understand that losing a loved one is a life-changing event, and they are there to guide and support you through the process in whichever way is best for you.

Questions to expect

Funeral directors are not cold or indifferent, there to bombard you with questions about your dearly departed. They are there to listen, give advice and offer guidance. However, they will need to ask you a few questions to make sure that the funeral goes ahead smoothly and that all your wishes are respected.

To help you prepare for the funeral, our dedicated Bristol funeral directors will ask you some of the following questions:

Depending on how you answer, there may be follow-on questions to ensure the funeral director fully understands what your wishes are and how best to arrange them.

Questions to ask a funeral director

You may have lots of questions to ask, but don’t worry if you don’t. Your appointment with one of our female funeral directors is a conversation – not a questionnaire. They will be happy to answer any questions you have about the process, so don’t be afraid to ask.

Common questions that we encounter from our customers are:

You may have questions not included on this list – and that is fine too. All in all, your appointment to discuss the arrangements will take around an hour, in which you will have the opportunity to make your final goodbye as special as possible.

If you’d like to book an appointment at our funeral home in Bristol or you want more information about our services, call our 24-hour phone line on 0117 956 4796 or email us at and we’ll be in touch soon.

Deciding what to wear to a funeral when the weather is warm can be a challenge. On the one hand, it’s a relief not to have to worry about it being cold and wet on such an important occasion. On the other, you don’t want to end up feeling uncomfortably hot.

Woman Choosing Clothes for Summer Funeral

If you’re wondering what to wear to a funeral in the summer, you’re in the right place. Our specialist team of female funeral directors have put together a brief guide on dressing respectably for services while staying cool and comfortable. Read on to learn more.

Ladies wear for summer funerals

Skirt/ dresses

Skirts and dresses are a reliable go-to for a funeral on a hot summer’s day. It is perfectly acceptable to show your legs at a funeral, providing the skirt is no shorter than knee-length. Ideally, you should also wear thin tights for formal occasions.


If you do wish to wear trousers, then opt for a soft, thin fabric that fits loosely around the legs. This will ensure good air circulation and the trousers won’t stick to your skin if you start to sweat. Loose fitting cotton or linen trousers are great options for preventing sweating, but you should avoid casual denim fabrics at funerals.


If you wish to wear a thin jacket with your outfit, then go ahead. At most services, it is acceptable to remove your jacket if you get too warm, providing that the top or dress you have on underneath is smart enough alone.


Turtlenecks and long-sleeved are perfect for funerals, however, they may be too warm during the summer. A plain or floral short sleeve or three-quarter length sleeve top or blouse will work fine as long as the neckline isn’t too low.

Sheer tops and vest tops are a no go. Even though they’re a summer wardrobe essential, it’s best to avoid any tops that reveal too much skin at a remembrance service. You should also avoid tops with flashy embellishments or slogans.

Men’s wear for summer funerals

When it comes to deciding what to wear for a summer funeral, men have fewer options, as traditional funerals do expect a formal suit or jacket. However, not all funerals adhere to strict dress codes, so check with the person organising the service to find out what’s appropriate. Either way, men will usually be expected to look smart.


Check if you are required to wear a jacket before you attend the service. If you are, opt for a lightweight jacket made from linen, cotton or polyester. You should also opt for understated colours such as black, navy, brown or grey. Dark colours are most common for funerals and they’re also better for disguising sweat.


Shorts and flip flops are usually not allowed for funerals, however tapered chino style trousers that reveal a little ankle will keep you cooler and should be acceptable for more relaxed services. Otherwise, stick to tailored trousers made from cotton or linen to keep your comfortable.


Long-sleeved shirts are still the norm at funerals, which isn’t ideal in a heatwave. Because of this, you’ll want to choose your fabrics wisely and opt for a shirt made from cotton, chambray or even bamboo. These fabrics allow airflow to pass through freely, helping sweat evaporate easier.

Expert funeral advice in Bristol

Choosing what to wear at a funeral in the summer may be the least of your worries, but it’s wise to consider your comfort during such a difficult day.

Dressing for a funeral in warm weather isn’t always easy given the nature of traditional funeral dress codes. However, services are evolving and not all dress codes are the same, so ask ahead of time to make sure you know what’s expected and opt for lightweight fabrics to keep you cool.

Whether you’re in need of a local funeral director near you or you have questions about what to expect on the day, contact our friendly Bristol funeral directors today on 0117 956 4796 or email for support.

It’s only natural to be unsure about what to say at a funeral. Because losing someone close can be very traumatic, comforting a bereaved person is far from easy. It is completely normal to be at a loss for words in such moments.

Talking at Funeral

You can’t avoid being overwhelmed by the grief and sadness that come with funerals. However, you can think through what you are going to say beforehand, so your feelings don’t get the best of you.

Words of comfort to say at a funeral

If you don’t know what to say at a funeral, put yourself in the shoes of the grieving person. They are not looking for instant comfort, nor for advice on how to get on with their lives. All they want to know is that they can rely on their friends and family for support.

The best way to be caring and supportive is by keeping the actual message short and simple. However, you need to ensure that your intonation is heartfelt and sincere. Non-verbal communication is just as important. Maintain eye contact with the bereaved person at all times and — if you’re reasonably close with them — end your message with a short hug.

These are some appropriate words of comfort and support that you can say at a funeral service:

What to text someone after a funeral

After the end of the service, you might want to send a message to the bereaved person to show further support. It can be difficult to know what to text someone after a funeral, but these words will make things easier:

Help with funeral arrangements

One way to support a grieving person is by offering your help with paperwork and funeral arrangements. Learning how to plan a funeral can be extremely exhausting for anyone suffering from bereavement – particularly in the first stages of grief. Your close friend or family member will be eternally grateful if you take some weight off their shoulders.

If you’d like to hear more about our funeral services or plans, call us on our 24-hour phoneline at 0117 956 4796 or email us at

When a loved one passes away, it can be overwhelming to even think about planning the funeral date. If you’re wondering ‘how long after death is a funeral?’, it might help to know that it can vary depending on your circumstances.

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In this post, we’ll outline the general guidelines about when funerals are held, so you can make the right choice for you.

How long after death is a funeral?

Usually, the funeral is held between one to two weeks after death. However, in certain cases, it can be longer due to delays. Funerals can be delayed if there are availability issues with your preferred funeral director, place of worship or crematorium – or if there is an inquest into the death. These delays are typically resolved within a matter of weeks.

Family members may also decide to delay the funeral themselves, for example, to ensure family and friends have enough notice to plan their travel or book a day off work to attend the funeral.

Can you hold a funeral on a Saturday or Sunday?

Generally speaking, funerals are held on weekdays in the morning or afternoon. However, in most cases, you do have the option to arrange a funeral on a Saturday or Sunday, if required. Depending on the policy of your funeral director or crematorium, there may be an extra charge and less availability for a weekend funeral.

Planning a funeral date

As well as considering how long after death a funeral is typically held, you should also think about your own requirements before choosing a date. These include:

Choosing the right funeral date

At Jamieson Funerals, we understand that arranging times and dates for a loved one’s funeral can be a stressful experience. If you have any questions about how long the funeral process will take or want to discuss your requirements, our caring and responsive team are on hand to support you.

If you’d like to learn more about our funeral services in Bristol, don’t hesitate to contact us on 0117 956 4796.

When it comes to the funeral for a precious loved one, you might feel unsure about what to write on a funeral flowers card.

Woman Writing Funeral Card

Funerals can be an overwhelming and emotional experience, and so it’s very normal if you’re struggling to express your feelings. In this article, we’ll outline some ideas for what to write on a funeral flowers card for your Mum or Dad.

What to write on a funeral flowers card for Mum

Mums stand by us through the best and worst times of our lives – and when you lose your mum, it can be hard to convey everything she has meant to you. A funeral card for Mum should capture the essence of her life or reignite a special memory you shared.

Here are some ideas for what to write on a funeral flowers card for Mum:

What to write on funeral flowers for Dad

Dads provide everything from practical advice to a shoulder to cry on, so it’s important to find the right words to describe his impact on your life. When deciding what to write on funeral flowers for your dad, you might want to think of a lesson he has taught you or a special day you spent together. For example:

Supporting you through this difficult time

As well as deciding what to put on the card for funeral flowers, there are many other stages of the funeral process to plan for. Preparing for a funeral can be a very overwhelming process for loved ones. That’s why our caring and supportive funeral directors are here to help you through – with a range of funeral packages to suit your needs.

If you’d like to learn more or want to discuss your requirements, contact us on 0117 956 4796.